My Man

Well, with all the commotion of a new baby, it's easy to forget about the man who made it all happen. Samuel has been such a wonderful husband and father, and I'm so grateful to be married to such a wonderful, sexy man. :) Finally I'm doing the "my man" post. I just re-read my answers, and it seems I have to make comments with every answer. Oh well. If you were in a big hurry, you probably wouldn't be reading my blog right now, right?

MY MAN:
1. Who is your man? Samuel Bigler
2. How long have you been together? Since May 2005
3. Dating/Engaged/Married? Dated for 3 months, engaged for 5, married for almost 2 years
4. How old is your man? Just turned the big 3-0, and he's not happy about it.

You or your man?
1. Who eats more? Hmm...this is a tough one. Him I guess.
2. Who said "I love you" first? I was totally ready to admit it first, but he was like, "don't say it yet!" Then he said it first later.
3. Who kissed who first? He kissed me first (I wanted to make him wait as long as I could, you know, to keep him wanting it, but I only lasted a week.)
3.5 Who proposed to who? The picture says it all.
4. Who weighs more? Samuel, although I ALMOST caught up to him when I was 40 weeks pregnant.
5. Who sings better? Samuel's better than I am, he's quite the singer. We'll do duets in church and stuff though.
6. Who's Older? Samuel, by three years
7. Who's smarter? If it's book smart, it's me. If it's "world smart" it's him. He's just smart about the way the world works, and the people who live in it.

Different Ways
8. Who's temper is worse? Mine flares much faster, but if I really keep pushing him, he'll get really ticked. Unfortunately, when that happens it strikes me as really funny, and I laugh, and he just gets madder.
9. Who does the laundry? He used to do it, but now that I am constantly covered in milk, throw-up, and baby poo, it's me.
9.5 Who does the dishes? He does. Love that!
10. Who sleeps on the right side of the bed? Me, closer to the baby.
11. Who's feet are bigger? Samuel- size 12. Hard to find shoes in that size sometimes.
12. Who's hair is longer? Mine
13. Who's better with the computer? He's better at fixing it when it freezes/crashes, etc, but I like to think I'm an internet pro.
14. Who mows the lawn? No lawn at our apartment, but someday...he will.
15. Who pays the bills? He pays most of them, but gives me money and lets me pay a few with my old checking account since I love writing checks. I'm silly, huh?
16. Who cooks dinner? I do. I love cooking. But I'm not getting around to it much these days.
17. Who drives when you are together? Samuel
18. Who pays when you go out to dinner? No matter who has the money that day, I like him to actually "pay" since it makes me feel like he's all chivalrous and stuff.
19. Who's the most stubborn? Well, I think I am, but I try to disguise my ways.
20. Who is the first one to admit when they're wrong? It used to be me, but he's gotten really good at it since I'm right so often. HAHA just kidding. Kind of.
21. Who's parents do you see more? His, because they like to come out here to visit us.
23. Who asked who out? I asked him out. He was totally playing games with my mind by not asking me out (he said he was just scared I'd break his heart, whatever) so I took matters into my own hands and asked him out. I was raised NOT to be aggressive like that, but believe it or a not, I took a Marriage Prep class at BYU that gave us ASSIGNMENTS to ask guys out. So that's how I had the guts to do it.
24. What did you do? We went boating to a Sandbar in Kaneohe Bay with some people from Shriners Hospital, where I was interning. (see a picture from a previous post here--)
25. Who's more sensitive? Me. He likes to call it HYPER-sensitive. Tee hee.
26. Who's taller? He is, and his height is one of my favorite things about him. 6' 2"
27. Who has more friends? He is extremely social and I usually have to drag him away from church on Sundays cause he'll talk to EVERYONE but now that I have all my blogging friends, plus my Hawaii friends, I can probably say I have the most. That's good for me, since I wasn't always great at getting close to girlfriends.
29. Who has more siblings? I have 2 bros, 3 sis, he has 2 bros, 1 sis.
30. Who wears the pants in the relationship? My mom warned him, thoroughly, before he married me that I would "rule the roost"--however, I really must say that we share those pants really well, and that's exactly how I like it.

One Month Old

Happy one month birthday to Kalia!!

You guys keep encouraging me to post pictures and video clips (thanks!) so here's a few more from my endless supply.

An idea from my sister Krystal, she takes a comparison picture every month. I thought it was kinda funny that Kalia's arms and the bear's arms are in the same position.As you can see she's plumping up nicely. I think she's about 12 lbs already, with rolls everywhere! Samuel gets his revenge with a "sleeping" picture of his own.This is Jack Clark (4 months old). Michael and Kat Clark moved into our ward a few months ago from Tennessee (Michael is from there, Kat is from Provo...you'll see her in future pictures for sure) and we love them to death.

Sleep Advice Please! And a baby blessing...

My baby is 4 weeks old today...I can't believe how the time is flying. This is how they grow up so fast, right?? Kalia's just starting to settle into some patterns, so I have been trying to figure some things out. I've read some great books (Baby Whisperer, BabyWise, 12 Hours sleep by 12 weeks old) and I want to combine them all to create a good little sleeper. I'm not sure how soon to start though, since they all suggest different ages.

I've been pretty much feeding her every few hours, including through the night. A couple times she's gone 4-5 hours at night, especially if I'm careful and I don't let her take long naps during the day. Usually by the second feeding (around 6:30 a.m.) I just pull her in bed with me and feed her, we both fall asleep, and she doesn't get burped or changed. That's how this happens:
Cute, I know, but I don't think any of us sleeps very soundly with her making lots of noises and grunts . Anyway, I love sleeping with her, but I think it's time we all started getting better rest. Here's a few things I need advice on:

1. Swaddling: It's too warm to do it here, unless we turn our air conditioner on. It's worth it to me to turn it on every night, and swaddle her, if it makes her sleep better and longer. But what about during the day? She's constantly waking herself up with her startles and flailing arms. When will this stop?

Which brings me to my next question:
2. I want her to learn to go to sleep on her own, so I've been getting her drowsy (usually by holding her, putting her in the swing, or the bouncy chair) then laying her down, but as soon as she feels herself going down, she wakes up, gets all disoriented and totally wakes up, and I have to start over, usually several times. (nice double chin by the way, eh?)

Is there a trick to this? Is swaddling day and night for every nap the answer? Or do I make her just cry herself to sleep with her flailing limbs? (This is really hard for a first time mother, no doubt, but it's especially hard here because we're in this tiny apartment and everyone has their windows open, and I can't escape the cries. Neither can any of the neighbors.)

We are going to St. George next week (more on that in a second) and I'm thinking maybe I'll try the "cry it out" method at my mom's house, since there are solid walls and doors to block out the crying...what do you guys think? Maybe I'll just let her sleep naked on her changing table, since that's like her favorite place in the whole world. Just kidding.
Here's a little video clip of her...doing nothing absolutely nothing...but enjoying her changing table. Ignore my "mommy voice" please.
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Finally, I am THRILLED to say that we're COMIN' HOME for a visit!! YEAH!!

WE ARE GOING TO BLESS KALIA ON SEPT 30TH AND ANY OF YOU WHO'D LIKE TO COME ARE INVITED. The church is on Brigham Road (the East chapel, furthest from the freeway) and the ward meets at 9 a.m. The address is 1222 E. Brigham Road. We'll probably have lots of people over at the house on Sunday and Monday, so anybody is welcome to come. And we are planning on coming to Mother's Group on Wednesday. And someone is my ward is having a baby shower for us on Thursday evening, and a Dixie Football game on Saturday night that my BIL Wayne is playing in, so there's a whole variety of opportunities for us to see each other- I'd love to see any of my blogging friends, especially since I haven't seen many of you for years.

Well, speaking of a sleeping baby, she finally is asleep, and this is probably my only chance to shower. Ta Ta for now.

My Favorite Things

You guys are probably getting depressed from reading my blog. I have a few more bits of bad news.

All those antibiotics I had to take for my infections killed off my "good" bacteria, and now I have thrush in the, uh, milk jugs. Nothing a little topical cream can't take care of, but poor Kalia is having a hard time eating, I think it's either made the milk taste funny or her mouth or throat is sore.

Also, today I saw a urologist. The good news: my kidney stone is only 2mm, and it's resting at the bottom of my kidney. It might not kill me to pass it, ...but it could be there for awhile. I'm going to dissolve it with my mind powers. Just kidding.

The bad news: The pain in my right side is NOT related to the kidney stone like I thought. He let me see my CAT scan results, and besides the kidney stone it shows a possible cyst in the liver, possible blood clot, and/or possible spleen issues. He's referrring me back to the Internist. Back to Mystery Diagnosis.

Still, I maintain that life is good. I'm trying so hard to be positive and to try to learn what I'm supposed to learn. Maybe this is God's idea of compelling me to be humble...I hope I learn quickly. Anyway, the blessings in my life completely outweigh the challenges right now, which in perspective, are still very small.

I didn't do the "Favorite Things" swap that a lot of you guys did, but mostly that's because these favorite things aren't swappable: :)

My favorite things come from this sweet little spirit in this chubby little body.My favorite sounds are her coos and her sighs of contentment, or most of all, the way she gulps down milk with such pleasure. My favorite things to see are the moments when she finds her hands and fingers and happily sucks on them. The best sight of all are the darling little smiles that have just started to happen as she looks at us in recognition.

My favorite smell is the smell of her skin, especially her head.

My favorite moments: when I get to feed her, and we sit in the quiet with her little tummy laying on mine, and I can feel her breathing; or when we get a really good burp out; or when she wraps her tiny hand around my finger and won't let go.

My favorite thing is being a mother, and starting to understand what God and His Love is really all about.So congratulations to all my pregnant blogging friends, I know of at least six of you...and to all the rest of us...let's have more babies!!

Life is Good

This weekend we finally re-entered "real life". It's good to be back. We went down to Waikiki to see an airshow by the Thunderbirds. Sorry...I have no details on why or what or who they are, but it was the 60th anniverary of something...
I couldn't believe she could sleep through such loud noise.Saturday night we were able to go to a dinner party to meet the new Hawaii Honolulu mission president and his wife. They are here from Salt Lake City, and I think they're great. It was for all the bishops and ward mission leaders, and Samuel is the WML. We were like the youngest people there, but we had a great time. I thought I'd share a little Hawaiian Love...this is the way to relax after eating lots of roasted pig. (Our Stake President is playing the guitar. I love that man! He also plays the ukulele, electric guitar, drums, and conga drums.) And to my little sis, Tara, who plays the Ukulele herself, notice the ukulele being played by the guy on the couch. Isn't it gorgeous?
Sorry, these clips aren't the best.

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And finally, some hula if you're so inclined. It's so beautiful, isn't it?
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Okay, finally, today is my first day at home alone with Kalia, and this is how we entertain ourselves. My pediatrician said to give Kalia some tummy time so she can strengthen her neck muscles...but instead she is working out those leg muscles!! I thought it was so funny, I had to share...am I mean mom for having a laugh at her expense?

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a KIDNEY STONE??

I have a kidney stone. They did another cat scan on Thursday and found it. We are waiting for the "full report" so I can't tell you now how big it is or if we are going to do some crazy blasting procedure to break it up, all I can say is that this explains both the side pain and the abnormal blood test. And I'm scared to death of what's going to happen when it's time to pass it.

Privacy

Okay, first of all, I really hope I didn't forget to add anyone for the private blog thing. I apologize if that happened, and I hope you guys will let me know if anyone got forgotten, or if anyone in the future wants to be added.

Since you're all dying to know, the reason I went private was to prevent a certain someone from reading the blog. Some of you know, and the rest of you are about to find out, that Samuel was married before, for 2 unhappy years, and it ended in divorce. Sad story, but really happy for me. The ex-wife has struggled a lot and made some bad decisions since then. We found out from his sister-in-law that the Ex was reading the blog. Samuel asked me to go private-- what can ya do? Google just makes it so easy to find people.

Other news: I've been back to the hospital two more times, and been in to see an Internal Medicine doctor. The pain in my side hasn't gone away, although the 2 wks of antibiotics decreased the pain. The Internist found some abnormal results in a blood test that he did on me, and his first fear was that it was a blood clot. First I had to have a cat scan to make sure it wasn't in my lungs (that can kill you). Then, yesterday, they sent me back to have an ultrasound done on my legs. They didn't find anything there either. I feel like I'm on the show "Mystery Diagnosis" or "House" because they just keep eliminating what it's NOT. I don't feel too worried though, I just wish I could finish recovering normally.

Samuel's family left tonight. Here' s a few pictures from the time they were here.

A huge congratulations to his older brother, Oliver, who proposed to Renee, my soon-to-be SIL, while he was here. (Oliver is the oldest kid and in his mid-thirties, so needless to say, we're all thrilled.)
We found that Kalia really likes sleeping on her side. I have always been a side sleeper. Actually, one of my books says that babies inherit "position preference" from their parents. Do any of your babies like to sleep the same way as you or your hubby? (Again, I hope you all understand about all the baby-in-diaper pictures. Samuel is installing another air conditioning unit right now as I write this. We are so dang hot.
I finally got out of the house for something other than a hospital visit. Sam's parents took us to Costco. We stopped at a beach park to feed Kalia and his mom took this shot.When we got to Costco, I was already tired and worn out. His parents suggested I drive a motor cart. At first I was embarrassed, but then I quit caring, and I realized how NICE it is to shop that way! They are so fun!

Grandma Bigler couldn't resist, she had to buy a MuMu for Kalia. We were all spoiled while they were here.

First Movie Attempt

Thanks everyone, for your e-mail addresses, I will give it a few more days before I make the switch to private. Please don't worry, it's nothing scary, and as soon as I actually go private I will put your minds to rest. If you are really dying to know, email me and I'll tell ya!

I am actually trying to post a video for the first time. It's not much, just Samuel singing to Kalia as she looks on in amazement (I guess that he sounds just like Jack Johnson?) Haha- and I hope you can tell he says "give a dang", to edit it for all our virgin ears. Sorry that I didn't hold the camera steady. Let's see if the video works.
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A First Bath to Remember

I really need to download picasa and start doing some collages. For now, here's the funny story of Kalia's first bath:Her umbilical cord fell off Friday night, and so decided to attempt the first bath. She didn't like her sponge baths, so we weren't sure how she would like the real thing. We don't have a real tub, but we do have a baby tub, which she'll probably outgrow in about, oh, two weeks. ;0)

Oh, and I should tell you, she was acting like she needed to have a good little poopie, but couldn't get it out. We got tired of waiting, and got on with the bath.
She surprised us and LOVED it. She was as good as gold as we washed her all over. Then, when we washed her hair, we gave her a pacifier to keep her calm. She did so good. We decided it must have reminded her of the womb.We were almost done when we heard some BUBBLES in the water! Apparently it DID remind her of the womb, cause last time she was there she pooped in there too. We quickly pulled her out of the water and washed off her little bum. She never made a peep. It must have felt good to get it out. We thought she was done pooping.

She wasn't. I had just put her in this gorgeous white hooded towel that my mom made just for her, when the poop came shooting out. We were all laughing SO hard, and it hurt so bad to laugh, but it was just too funny. (BTW, look how tiny our kitchen is!)Thank goodness we had Grandma and Grandpa Bigler there to help wash out the towel and the tub as we cleaned off the babe.

We washed her AGAIN...and bundled her up in a little robe......and she was happy as can be. So, we're learning as we go, and wow, it sure is fun.